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Will you tell nag your spouse unhappy things that relate to family issues or others once he step into the house after back from work?

Let me share with you my eldest auntie’s relationship with my uncle.

My eldest auntie (my mom’s eldest sister) is 70++ years old now. I remember clearly during my childhood time, she use to come over my house and stay over night. When she is here, she loves to “own” our kitchen. Too bad, her dishes quite salty, though the taste is nice….hehehe….oh ya, she is very traditional type of women too. she follow strictly every Chinese rules and regulations. You know what I mean. This one I am not so agree with her!

Occasionally she will invite her sister (my mom) to stay at her house too. Of course we sibling will tag along.

Well I did learn something from her at that time. Her kind words still will play around my mind, especially after my marriage. One of her very good advice:

Don’t ever query/nag/scold/ask that relate to unhappy topics to your spouse once he/she come back from work.

Her intention very simple. To maintain harmonize in the family.

Your spouse is tire of working whole day outside and bring back the bread for you all. Be nice to him/her. Let him/her rest a while, sip a cup of drink first if possible, and then only talk about any topic. The most important thing is: don’t make him/her worry/get irritated about family matters at that time. Everything can talk later, let him/her mind relaxes first.

Many times she stops my mom from talking unhappy stuff once my father comes back from work. She even requests my mom to serve him a cup of plain water. See, how daring my eldest auntie is. My uncle is very lucky to have her as spouse. Both of them respect each other, seldom quarrel. Everything can slow talk and come to the conclusion that both agreed on.

I am learning now. What about you?

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